May I tell you a secret? It's just between us. I spoke to a young woman a few weeks back and she asked me how to get in the crosshairs of one of my peers. She met him online and they spoke several times, met for tea and crumpets, etc.
Quick back story:
I met her at a function that my friends and I attended, and realized that she was trying to get my attention. We spoke briefly and I got the vibe she wanted more attention, but I was drunk and was getting my two-step on.
Anyway, she decided that she wanted to get to know him on a more personal level. She wanted to know how to do that. She specifically texted how she could take my place. She met me once and decided I was either replaceable or I was where she needed to be. She wasn't disrespectful or cocky. She asked plainly how does she get Lissy's moniker attached. I honestly said, becoming the friend means, you're the one he never wants. If he's meeting you for nosh and allows you to nuzzle in his fur, you are a prospective something or "other" and your actions determine what level you'll remain on.
I continued by saying that it's better to be upfront and state to him what you're telling me. He speaks english. I'm in no way responsible for swaying him in any direction toward vagoo or relationships in general. My job is to have the bail money ready and to split gas and snacks on the road trips.
I hope my advice doesn't warrant another conversation.
Some people are so afraid to "put themselves out there." I fully understand giving in to the temptation of telling her so that she will hopefully go away, but that never works(or at least so rarely in my experiences that I don't really see why it should count in the statistical sense 99.9 vs .1).
ReplyDeleteGranted knowing me I probably would have put her through some rigorous training program, made sure she was perfectly suited, and then let her see how lousy it is being perfectly suited when no one actually wants perfection, they just want to chase it. You could have at least got new shoes and a nice whip out of it(Leather only)
I just want to play my position until I am formerly replaced. If any person wants my job, they are welcome to it. At this point, I have friends to fix so I don't have to fix myself. It's easier. I know I make a great poncho villa..
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